TEN PARADIGMS OF MARRIAGE:
Keys for Restoring/Ensuring Marital Happiness
Paradigm 1: Pit
to Paradise
Happiness denied leads to the pit (pain, problems)
Happiness delivered leads to paradise (pleasure, peace)
Paradigm 2: Sorting &
Satisfying Gender Needs
Men’s needs are very different from the needs
of women.
Denial leads to the pit while delivery leads to paradise.
Paradigm 3: Ten
Paths to the Pit
Criticizing, blaming, punishing, withdrawing, etc. lead
to the
pit.
Paradigm 4: Ten
Paths to Paradise
Husband- or wife-dominated relationships lead to the
pit.
Egalitarian relationships (negotiating, respecting,
empowering,
etc.) lead to paradise.
Paradigm 5: Ten
Needs of Nature & Nurture
Some traits are hereditary and others are acquired.
Identify these traits in yourself and your partner.
Prepare to negotiate if differences cause conflict.
Paradigm 6: Problem
to Solution
Put into action a three-part solution process.
Paradigm 7: From
Willing to Acting (Children)
Reveal the process of decision-making.
Paradigm 8: The
Debt Trap vs. Financial Freedom
Debt is the path to the pit, debt-free is the path to
paradise.
Paradigm 9: Law of Diminishing
Returns
Know the difference between sex and intimacy
Paradigm 10: God’s
Design
Men fill the role of leadership, while women provide
influence. Ignoring the differences leads to the pit,
accepting and fostering them lead to paradise.
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